Being a loner is a trauma response -you are so used to people you love not showing up for you or walking away that you learn that the only thing that you can depend on is truly yourself so you naturally just feel safe when you’re alone Trauma Response Quote

 

Many of us have experienced the pain of abandonment or disappointment from those we trusted most. Over time, this can lead to a protective instinct to withdraw and rely solely on ourselves. While solitude can provide a sense of safety, it can also create barriers that make it difficult to connect with others.

Choosing to be alone often feels like the safer option, especially when past experiences have taught us that vulnerability can lead to hurt. However, it’s important to recognise that this coping mechanism, while understandable, doesn’t have to define our lives. Healing from trauma involves learning to navigate relationships in a way that honours our needs while also allowing for connection and support.

It’s okay to feel safe in solitude, but remember that you don’t have to face everything alone. Gradually opening up to trusted individuals can help rebuild your sense of safety in relationships. Surround yourself with people who understand your journey and respect your boundaries.

Let’s embrace the journey of healing together. Acknowledge the comfort of being alone while also allowing space for connection and love. You are worthy of relationships that uplift and support you—take your time, and know that it’s okay to seek companionship when you’re ready. 

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