Healing from the wounds inflicted by a narcissistic mother is far from a linear path. It is a complex dance of contradictions where strength and vulnerability coexist, often within the same moment. There are days when you stand tall, proud of the progress you’ve made, feeling like a warrior who has survived battles no one else could see. Yet, there are also moments when the weight of your past crashes down, and you feel broken, overwhelmed by grief for the childhood that was stolen from you.

Narcissistic mothers often demand perfection and silence pain, teaching you to mask your true feelings and present a facade of being "fine" even when chaos rages inside. True healing defies these imposed scripts. It allows you to hold space for the survivor and the wounded child, the rebel who sets boundaries and the mourner who grieves what was lost. It is the acceptance that healing is not about erasing pain but learning to live with it, to integrate it into your story without letting it define you.

This journey is filled with paradoxes. You might find yourself laughing freely one moment, only to be blindsided by a painful memory the next. You set firm boundaries with the narcissist while simultaneously mourning the mother you wished you had. You celebrate milestones that once seemed impossible, even as your hands tremble with the echoes of past trauma.

Society often pressures survivors to "just get over it," to move on as if healing is a destination rather than a process. But healing is a continuous, evolving experience that honours the full spectrum of your emotions. It is a testament to your resilience that you can hold anger and forgiveness, hope and despair, strength and fragility all at once.

To every survivor who has been told to "move on" or "get over it," know that your complexity is not a weakness but a profound strength. It is proof that you are alive, feeling deeply, and courageously forging a path toward a life defined by your own terms, not the limitations imposed by your past.

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