Love does not leave you traumatized. Whatever happened to you was not love.

Real love doesn’t break you down — it builds you up. It doesn’t leave you second-guessing your worth or begging for the bare minimum. It doesn’t manipulate, confuse, or make you feel like you're too much or never enough. Real love doesn’t silence your voice or punish your vulnerability. It listens. It understands. It holds space for your pain and helps you grow through it, not because you have to earn affection, but because you're already worthy of it.

If someone left you with anxiety, self-doubt, trust issues, or the constant fear of being abandoned — that wasn't love, that was control. That was emotional damage disguised as passion, and chaos disguised as intensity. Love doesn't thrive in fear or control — it thrives in trust, respect, honesty, and peace.

So don’t carry the weight of that experience and call it love. Don’t let the pain rewrite your definition of what love should feel like. The love you deserve is soft in tone but strong in presence. It makes you feel at home within yourself. It’s steady, it’s kind, and it brings clarity — not confusion.

You owe it to yourself to heal. To unlearn the patterns of mistreatment you thought were normal. To walk away from anything that hurts and call it by its real name — a wound, not love.

Because love... real love... does not leave you traumatized.