"Isn't it interesting how people call you naïve when you try to see the good in others, but then call you negative when you start calling people out? So which is it? Because it doesn't add up."

It’s strange how the world reacts when you change. When you're gentle, hopeful, and forgiving—choosing to believe in people, even when they've given you every reason not to—you’re dismissed as gullible or weak. They call it naïveté, as if seeing the light in others is some kind of flaw. But the moment you shift, the moment you begin to recognize patterns, to connect dots, to name manipulation, betrayal, and toxicity for what it truly is—they label you bitter, negative, or dramatic.

You can't win with people who only accepted you when you were silent, agreeable, and easy to control.

They never had a problem when you kept your pain to yourself. They never minded your wounds as long as you smiled through them. But the second you begin honoring your own feelings, expressing your truth, and refusing to carry the weight of others' projections, they get uncomfortable. Because you're no longer playing your part in their story.

This is what growth looks like: it confuses those who benefited from your lack of boundaries. It threatens those who only loved the version of you that kept peace at your own expense. You stop people-pleasing, and suddenly you’re “too much.” You stop accepting less, and now you're “difficult.” You stop excusing disrespect, and you're called “negative.”

But here's the truth—they were never really for you if your silence was the price of their comfort. You’re not negative for standing up for yourself. You’re not bitter for finally seeing clearly. You’re not broken for choosing to protect your peace.

You're evolving. And not everyone can come with you.