This is going to offend a lot of narcissistic people.

But the truth doesn’t care about your comfort — it only cares about being heard. And here’s the truth: it’s time you stop playing the victim in stories where you were actually the villain. It’s time to admit that you mistreated people — not once, not accidentally, but consistently — and then acted confused when they finally walked away.

You didn’t lose good people because they “changed.” You lost them because you refused to. Because when it came time to be accountable, you chose arrogance. When it came time to reflect, you chose projection. And when people who loved you begged you to meet them halfway, you mocked their emotions, minimized their pain, and pushed them even further away.

Then, instead of owning the chaos you caused, you went out and found new people — not to grow with, but to perform for. You gathered a crowd of cheerleaders who believe every lie you tell, who support your dysfunction, and who never challenge you to be better. You confuse validation with healing. You chase attention because deep down, you can’t face the silence that comes with true self-awareness.

But healing doesn’t happen through distraction.

It doesn’t happen through likes, followers, or trauma-dumping in places where no one holds you accountable.

Healing happens when you finally sit with the reality of who you are, acknowledge the hurt you’ve caused, and decide to do the hard work of changing.

And that’s exactly what narcissists run from.

They run from introspection.

They run from honesty.

They run from anything that makes them look at themselves without the mask — raw, unfiltered, and real.

Because when that mask falls, so does the illusion of innocence they’ve worked so hard to maintain.

So yes, this message will offend many. But sometimes offense is the first step toward awakening — and the only way to grow is to stop hiding behind lies and start confronting the damage you’ve done.