Have you ever noticed how with toxic people everything is always your fault?
No matter what they do, it somehow gets flipped back onto you.
Their behavior gets a hall pass.
Your reaction gets a courtroom trial.
Wild.
Somehow they can lie, manipulate, gaslight, disrespect, disappear, reappear, and still stand there confused like,
“Why are you so upset?”
Sir.
Ma’am.
Be serious.
This is how toxic dynamics work:
They provoke.
You react.
They point at your reaction and say, “See? That’s the problem.”
And just like that, the focus magically shifts away from their actions and onto your response.
Because accountability makes them itchy.
Let’s be clear about something real quick:
👉 Your reaction did not come out of thin air.
It was a response to repeated disrespect, crossed boundaries, and emotional nonsense that went unchecked for way too long.
But toxic people hate context.
Context exposes patterns.
Patterns expose truth.
And truth? Oh, truth ruins the whole victim performance.
So instead, they rewrite the story:
They’re “misunderstood”
You’re “too sensitive”
They were “just joking”
You’re “dramatic”
They were “triggered”
You’re “the problem”
Classic deflection.
Gold-medal level, honestly.
Here’s the part they don’t want you to realize:
✨ A healthy person listens when you speak.
✨ A toxic person listens only long enough to prepare their defense.
And when accountability never lands where it belongs, that’s your sign.
Not to explain harder.
Not to be quieter.
Not to shrink yourself into something more convenient.
But to step back and ask:
“Why am I carrying blame that doesn’t belong to me?”
Healing isn’t about never reacting.
It’s about no longer staying where you’re constantly blamed for responding to mistreatment.
So if you’ve been feeling crazy, confused, or constantly apologetic for things you didn’t break, let this be your reminder:
You’re not “too much.”
You’re just done tolerating too little.
And honestly?
That’s not savage.
That’s growth. 💅
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