Pay Attention to What They Avoid and Who They Choose

 

You can tell a lot about a person by the things they run from
and the person they run to.

Because here’s the truth no one likes to admit out loud:
✨ People don’t accidentally flee responsibility.
✨ They don’t mistakenly avoid growth.
✨ And they definitely don’t randomly choose who they confide in.

Those choices are intentional.

Some people run from:

• Hard conversations

• Accountability

• Healing

• Change

• Self-reflection

And instead of facing those things, they sprint toward comfort.
Toward enablers.
Toward people who won’t challenge them.
Toward anyone who will say, “You’re not wrong, they are.”

Convenient, right?

Because growth requires discomfort.
And not everyone is brave enough to sit with their own mess.

Watch closely:
A person who avoids responsibility will attach themselves to someone who excuses them.
A person who avoids healing will cling to someone who distracts them.
A person who avoids truth will seek someone who confirms their delusion.

That’s not loyalty.
That’s survival mode.

And listen, this isn’t about judging.
It’s about understanding patterns so you stop taking things personally that were never about you.

Sometimes they didn’t leave because you were too much.
They left because you required honesty.
Sometimes they didn’t choose someone else because that person was better.
They chose them because they were easier.

Here’s the mildly savage part (earned, not petty):
If someone runs from self-work and runs to validation, that tells you everything you need to know about where they are in life.

And that information?
It’s not meant to hurt you.
It’s meant to free you.

Because when you stop chasing people who are committed to avoiding themselves, you finally make room for people who are committed to growth.

Pay attention.
Patterns speak louder than promises.
And who someone runs to will always reveal what they’re trying not to face.

That’s not bitterness.
That’s discernment. 🧠✨