Stop talking down on people like you’ve never been lost, broke, or figuring it out.
Let’s talk about the weird phenomenon where people make it to the other side of struggle and immediately delete the entire origin story.
Suddenly, they’ve “always known what they were doing.”
They’ve “never struggled like that.”
They’ve “just worked harder.”
Please. Sit down. Hydrate.
Most people who are doing well today were once lost, broke, confused, discouraged, and one unexpected bill away from a full emotional spiral. They were winging it. Guessing. Googling life answers at midnight. Making decisions with half the information and a whole lot of hope.
And that’s not a flaw. That’s called being human.
What is wild is talking down on someone who’s currently standing exactly where you once stood, just without the hindsight and highlight reel. Growth doesn’t give you permission to become condescending. Healing doesn’t come with a superiority badge. And success doesn’t mean you suddenly outrank empathy.
Here’s the truth nobody likes to admit:
People don’t get judged for being lost. They get judged for reminding others of who they used to be.
Watching someone struggle can be uncomfortable when it mirrors a chapter you worked hard to forget. But forgetting where you came from doesn’t make you evolved. It makes you disconnected.
And let’s be clear — figuring it out is not failure. It’s literally the process. No one wakes up with clarity, confidence, and a five-year plan fully loaded. Those things are built through mistakes, wrong turns, awkward seasons, and lessons that only show up when life humbles you a little.
So before you talk down on someone who’s still in the messy middle, remember:
You were once there too.
You just had more grace extended to you than you’re offering now.
Be proof that growth makes people kinder, not colder.
Because the loudest judgment often comes from the shortest memory.
And karma?
She has receipts.
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