To Go: Women Who Think You’re a Big Deal (Because You Are)

 

Women need other women in their lives who think they are a big deal.
No competition. No backhanded comments. No jealousy. No hate.
Just “I love you, I support you, and there is no one on earth like you” energy.

Let’s start with the truth no one wants to say out loud:
Not every woman in your life is rooting for you. Some are spectating. Some are secretly keeping score. And some clap with one hand while hoping you trip.

We’re not talking about those women today.

We’re talking about the ones who gas you up without agenda. The ones who don’t get quiet when good things happen to you. The ones who hear your wins and don’t immediately measure them against their own.

You need women who think you’re a big deal — not in a delusional way, but in a “I see your growth, your grit, and your glow-up” way.

Because here’s the thing:
Real support doesn’t come with disclaimers.

It doesn’t sound like:
“I’m happy for you, but…”
“I mean, must be nice…”
“Oh, couldn’t be me.”

That’s not support. That’s shade with manners.

Healthy female friendships don’t compete — they collaborate. They don’t downplay your success to feel comfortable. They don’t treat your confidence like a threat. They understand that another woman’s shine does not dim theirs.

And yes, we’ve all outgrown the idea that women are naturally jealous creatures. That narrative was never about truth — it was about keeping us small, suspicious, and separated.

Secure women don’t compete.
Healed women don’t hate.
Confident women don’t need to subtract from others to feel whole.

You deserve women who:

• Celebrate you out loud

• Defend you when you’re not in the room

• Check you with love, not ego

• Hold space without making it about themselves

Women who say, “Go higher. I’ll hold your purse.”

And if you’re thinking, “That sounds nice, but I don’t have that,” here’s the plot twist:
Sometimes you have to be her first.

Be the woman who claps without comparison.
Be the woman who doesn’t flinch at another woman’s confidence.
Be the woman who speaks life instead of side-eyes.

Because the energy you keep is the life you live.

So yes — women need other women who think they are a big deal.
Not for ego.
For safety.
For growth.
For joy.

No competition.
No jealousy.
No weird energy.

Just:
“I see you.”
“I support you.”
“There is no one on earth like you.”

And honestly?
That kind of sisterhood is priceless. 💛