The thing about a narcissist is that real problem-solving is *off the table*. You’re not dealing with someone who wants to resolve anything, find common ground, or repair the relationship. You're dealing with someone who is completely invested in *being right*, maintaining control, and protecting their fragile ego at all costs.

Trying to have a healthy, constructive conversation with a narcissist feels like talking to a wall that keeps shifting. The moment you bring up an issue, they deflect. They twist your words, deny facts, and somehow turn the blame back on *you*. If you express hurt, they’ll mock you or accuse you of being too sensitive. If you ask for clarity, they’ll gaslight you, making you question your own reality. If you push too hard for the truth, they’ll shut down, give you the silent treatment, or explode in rage.

They attack when you’re vulnerable. They play the victim when you stand your ground. And they avoid accountability like it’s a personal threat—because to them, it *is*. Accountability would mean facing their own behavior, and a narcissist will do everything possible to avoid that. They’re not interested in fixing the relationship. They’re interested in keeping power over it.

So if you find yourself exhausted, confused, constantly explaining yourself, and never getting anywhere—it’s not you. It’s the dynamic. You can’t resolve anything with someone who sees accountability as an attack, and conflict resolution as a battlefield to win, not a problem to solve.

That’s not a partnership. That’s emotional warfare. And your peace deserves better.