**READ THIS AGAIN**

If a person can control their behaviors and actions during the love bombing phase and in front of others publicly, then switch on a dime in private over time, they don’t have issues with losing their temper, controlling their anger, nor with impulse control.

**IT’S THE OPPOSITE.** They are straight-up *highly controlling, manipulative, calculated, abusive,* and cruel. They are deliberate in everything they do. Every action, every word, every gesture is planned and executed to serve one purpose: control and power over you. This isn’t emotional dysregulation—it’s emotional terrorism. And that is the personality of a **covert narcissistic sociopath**. A very *dangerous* type, the kind you must acknowledge, accept, and get the hell away from.

These individuals are masters of deception. In public, they seem kind, patient, generous, even charming. But behind closed doors, the mask slips. Their true self is cold, jealous, hateful, paranoid, and vindictive. They seethe with envy over your happiness, your peace, and anything they cannot control or become. They believe everyone is just as deceptive as they are. Their lack of trust isn’t from trauma—it’s from projection. They can’t trust others because *they know what they themselves are capable of.*

You cannot build a future with someone who lies as easily as they breathe. You can’t create love, safety, or truth in a relationship with someone whose primary source of pleasure comes from confusing, hurting, and belittling you. **You will never win with them—because they need you to lose in order to feel powerful.**

They thrive in secrecy and ambiguity. That’s why they will do everything in their power to make you doubt your instincts, deny your reality, and dismiss every red flag. But don’t ignore what your intuition is screaming at you. The very fact that they can control themselves when they *want* to means they are *choosing* to hurt you. That is not a mistake. It is a strategy.

**So choose yourself.** Save yourself at the first sign. You don’t owe them more chances. You don’t need more proof. If it feels wrong, that’s because it is. Don’t sacrifice your sanity for someone who enjoys watching you break. The longer you stay, the more of yourself you will lose.

You deserve *peace*. You deserve *honesty*. You deserve a kind and loving connection built on respect, not fear. You have the choice—don’t wait until years are gone to realize that you always had the power to walk away.