WHEN YOU SEE YOUR EX STILL DOING THE SAME TIRED OLD SHIT, AND IT'S THEN YOU KNOW THE PROBLEM WAS NEVER YOU.

You gave your heart fully, you showed up in ways they couldn’t even recognize, and you tried to make things work even when the odds were against you. You invested time, energy, and love, hoping that maybe, just maybe, they would meet you halfway. But they didn’t. And now, watching them stumble through the same mistakes, make the same excuses, hurt the same people, and act as if nothing has changed, you finally see the truth: the problem was never you.

It was never your love, your effort, your patience, or your kindness. It was never your words, your boundaries, or your attempts to communicate. The problem was them—their choices, their patterns, their unwillingness to grow, and their inability to see or value what was right in front of them. Every misstep they repeat is proof of that. Every careless action, every selfish decision, every moment they refuse to change—it’s all evidence that they were never capable of being the person you deserved.

And here’s the beauty in it: realizing this gives you freedom. It gives you peace. It gives you clarity. You are no longer carrying their mistakes, their failures, or their drama. You are no longer trying to fix someone who refuses to be fixed. You are no longer questioning yourself or your worth. You can step back, breathe, and finally see that their story is theirs—and your story is yours. And in your story, there’s growth, there’s healing, and there’s a life untouched by the same tired, destructive patterns.

So let them continue their cycle while you rise above it. Let them repeat the mistakes they couldn’t see before while you build the life you’ve always deserved. The problem was never you, and now, finally, you know it—and that knowledge is liberating beyond words.