THERE IS A MOMENT WHEN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A NARCISSIST THAT YOU REALIZE YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHO THIS PERSON IS AND IT IS TERRIFYING. At first, they seem larger than life—magnetic, captivating, the person who makes you feel seen, valued, and understood in ways you didn’t even know you needed. You are drawn in by their charisma, their intensity, and the way they make the world feel like it revolves around you. But over time, the façade begins to crumble, revealing inconsistencies that are impossible to ignore. Their words and promises no longer align with their actions, and their charm gives way to manipulation, subtle cruelty, and control.

You begin to notice the patterns: the gaslighting that makes you question your memory, the silent treatments that make you feel small, the emotional highs that leave you addicted and the lows that leave you shattered. Each revelation is more disorienting than the last, because the person you thought you knew—the one you trusted, loved, and invested in—is nothing like the person standing in front of you. It’s a terrifying awakening to the reality that you never truly knew them, and perhaps you never really could.

The fear isn’t just about them—it’s about yourself. It’s about realizing how easily you can be deceived, how much you gave of yourself, and how much of your reality was manipulated to serve their narrative. You struggle to reconcile the person you fell in love with, the person you hoped they were, and the stranger who thrives on control, chaos, and your confusion. In that moment, you understand that the danger is not only in their deception—it’s in losing yourself in the process, questioning your own worth, and wondering if the love you thought was real was ever anything more than a carefully constructed illusion designed to keep you hooked, dependent, and perpetually uncertain.