Narcissists claim their exes are crazy, as it's easier than admitting they cheated on them repeatedly, lied to them daily, gaslit them constantly, bankrupted them financially, took away all their friends and family, controlled them coercively, hurt them emotionally, and then abandoned them once they'd drained them completely.

Admitting all of that would require self-awareness, honesty, and remorse—three things a narcissist is fundamentally incapable of. So instead, they rewrite the story. They paint themselves as the innocent party, the misunderstood victim who "tried so hard" but was "pushed away" by someone “unstable” or “toxic.” They rely on the ignorance of others and the power of repetition to sell their version of events.

What they’ll never admit is that their ex wasn’t crazy—they were exhausted. Broken down by months or years of psychological warfare. Confused from being told one thing and shown another. Isolated from their support system, financially destabilized, and constantly second-guessing their own reality because of the narcissist’s manipulative games.

They don’t talk about the nights they disappeared without explanation. The times they turned everything into your fault. The moments you begged for honesty and were met with rage or silence. They won’t mention how they pushed you to your emotional limits, then blamed *you* for the reaction *they* provoked.

So when a narcissist says all their exes are “crazy,” remember this: it’s not a red flag about their ex—it’s a blinding warning sign about *them*. Because anyone who truly loved and respected someone wouldn’t need to destroy their character just to protect their lies.