A narcissist has a lot of built-up resentment toward his significant other. He knows, deep down, that he is reliant on you for validation, emotional support, and stability—but that truth alone infuriates him. It exposes a vulnerability he cannot tolerate. Though he needs you to constantly reassure him of his worth, he simultaneously despises that dependency. In his mind, needing anyone is a sign of weakness, and weakness is unacceptable.

However, narcissists crave variety, novelty, and excitement. They are easily bored with anything consistent or stable, including a loving partner who offers them unconditional support. To the narcissist, that kind of consistency feels like confinement. Over time, he begins to view your loyalty, reliability, and care not as strengths—but as the very chains that trap him in a “monotonous” life. And because he can’t accept responsibility for his own dissatisfaction or restlessness, he blames *you*. He accuses you, directly or indirectly, of tying him down, of being “too much,” “too needy,” or “not enough” all at once.

This blame fuels a deep, simmering anger toward you. He resents you not because you’ve done anything wrong—but because you’ve been overly giving, nurturing, and patient. Your compassion highlights his emotional shallowness. Your endurance shames him, though he’ll never admit it. And worst of all, your willingness to forgive and stay through the emotional chaos makes him lose respect for you. In his twisted logic, if you tolerate his abuse, you must be weak—and that makes him contemptuous.

So while you are loving him through his cruelty, he is emotionally punishing you for his own unhappiness. He projects his inner turmoil onto you because it’s easier than facing himself. He cannot love or appreciate you the way you deserve, because he sees your kindness as something to exploit rather than to honor. And yet, he keeps you close—not out of love—but because your presence fills the void he refuses to fill himself.

Understanding this dynamic is not about blaming yourself—it’s about seeing the truth clearly. You did not cause his pain. You are not responsible for his resentment. And you cannot fix a person who refuses to look in the mirror.