Unbothered Is a Learned Skill

 

“When someone calls me a bitch and expects me to be offended.”

That part always makes me smile.

Because if someone thinks that word is going to undo me, they clearly don’t know the résumé. You don’t earn this level of calm by being fragile. You earn it by surviving things that required backbone, boundaries, and the occasional firm “no.”

See, people love labels when they’re uncomfortable with confidence.
They call you a bitch when you stop people-pleasing.
They call you difficult when you start being direct.
They call you cold when you no longer over-explain yourself.

And here’s the secret:
That word usually says more about their frustration than your personality.

Strong women get called names when they don’t soften themselves for convenience. When they don’t laugh at disrespect. When they don’t fold to expectations they never agreed to in the first place.

So no — I’m not offended.
I’m amused.

Because what they call “attitude” is really just discernment.
What they call “mean” is often just self-respect.
And what they call a “bitch” is usually a woman who finally stopped negotiating her worth.

If being clear, grounded, and unavailable for nonsense earns me a title, I’ll wear it comfortably — without explaining, defending, or dimming.

Offended? No.
Unbothered? Absolutely.

At some point, you realize peace looks a lot like not caring how people mispronounce your character. And once you get there, it’s hard to be shaken by opinions that were never qualified to begin with.

Smile.
Stay grounded.
And keep being exactly who you are — it’s clearly memorable.