Not a Partner, Not a Project — Just Not Available for Use

 

Let’s clear something up real quick:
Narcissists don’t want connection. They want convenience.

They don’t see people as partners—they see functions. Roles to fill. Resources to extract. Props to maintain the image. And once you stop being useful? Suddenly you’re “too much,” “dramatic,” or “changed.” Funny how that works.

Here’s the savage truth, spelled out plainly:

• Not a sex toy — intimacy without respect is just exploitation.
• Not a place to stay — stability is not something you siphon from someone else.
• Not an ATM card — love is not a financial transaction.
• Not a cook — caretaking without appreciation is servitude.
• Not someone to make them look normal — you are not their PR team.

A narcissist will drain you dry and still complain you didn’t pour fast enough.

The most dangerous thing you can do to someone like that?
Stop being useful.

Healing is realizing that love doesn’t require you to audition, provide, perform, or prove your worth. Real connection is mutual. Real love is accountable. Real partnership doesn’t leave you exhausted, confused, or questioning your sanity.

Here’s the empowering part (with a little spice):
The moment you say “I’m not available for that role,” the mask slips. Boundaries expose intentions faster than any argument ever could.

So if you’ve ever felt reduced to what you could give instead of who you are—this is your confirmation. You weren’t asking for too much. You were just giving to someone who only knows how to take.

You’re not here to be used.
You’re here to be respected.

And that realization?
That’s how you take your power back. 😌✨