Not Everyone Is Your Friend — Some Folks Are Just Frequent Faces

 

Let’s clear the air real quick: not everyone who laughs with you, texts you, or sits at your table is your friend. Some people are just… nearby. And confusing proximity with loyalty is how folks get hurt.

Here’s the truth nobody loves to say out loud (but we’re grown, so let’s say it nicely): some people are very one‑sided. They show up when it benefits them. They disappear when it doesn’t. They clap for you with one hand and keep the other behind their back.

That doesn’t make you cold. That makes you aware.

Friend vs. Acquaintance (Know the Difference)

A friend checks on you even when there’s nothing to gain. An acquaintance enjoys your energy, your access, your support… but rarely returns it.

And listen — acquaintances aren’t bad people. They’re just not your people. The problem comes when you give friend‑level access to acquaintance‑level consistency.

That’s when expectations get unmet. That’s when feelings get bruised. That’s when you’re like, “Why am I always the one reaching out?”

Yeah. Because you’re doing too much for someone who was never assigned that role.

Distance Isn’t Rude — It’s Strategic

You don’t need to overshare. You don’t need to over‑explain. You don’t need to be available to everybody.

Distance is a form of self‑respect.

Staying a step back doesn’t mean you’re bitter or antisocial. It means you’ve learned that access to you is earned, not automatic.

Some people can be cool from over there.

Read Actions, Not Vibes

People will say they love you. People will say they support you. People will say a lot.

But patterns don’t lie.

If someone only shows up when they need something… believe that. If they disappear when you need support… note that. If it’s always your effort keeping the connection alive… adjust accordingly.

No drama. No announcement. Just alignment.

Final Thought (A Little Savage, But Loving)

Everyone doesn’t deserve front‑row seats in your life. Some folks are meant for the hallway. Some for the lobby. And a very select few get the living room.

Protect your peace. Guard your energy. And remember — being selective isn’t being mean… it’s being wise.