**When you reject or ghost a narcissist first**, they will remain obsessed with you for years despite you removing access, having other partners, or even if they have a partner. In fact, many narcissists and psychopaths get bored in relationships easily and always keep tabs on people from their past — even those they barely had anything with. They don’t move on; they collect. You become a trophy in their twisted game, something they feel they *own*, even if you were never truly theirs.

They will stalk you subtly — fake accounts, asking mutual acquaintances about you, checking your online activity, or lurking in places they think you might be. Even while posting photos with their current partner, they may be watching you silently, fueled by rejection and a bruised ego. It's not love — it's possession. They aren’t longing for connection; they’re furious that you had the strength to walk away. Your indifference threatens the fragile illusion of power they built around themselves.

But here’s the irony: when the target of their obsession doesn’t care and never did, the narcissist’s behavior becomes glaringly pathetic. You can’t create a love triangle when one person refuses to even step into the ring. No competition exists when one side has already thrown away the game board.

This kind of obsession exposes their desperation — not your value to them, but their inability to tolerate being discarded. And it only further reinforces how deeply unwell and emotionally immature they truly are. You were never the problem — their need for control was.