It’s Not Avoidance… It’s Self-Control with a Criminal Record Pending

Let’s clear something up real quick.

I don’t “avoid people” because I’m weak, antisocial, or secretly crying in my car listening to sad playlists (okay… sometimes).
I avoid people because I have just enough personal growth to know not everybody deserves a front-row seat to my personality… especially the unfiltered version.

Because see—there are levels to me.

There’s:

• Polite me 😊
• Chill me 😌
• “I’m trying to be mature” me 🙃
  …and then there’s
• “We’re about to make decisions that ruin my entire week” me 😐

And some of y’all?
You don’t know how close you be to unlocking that last one.

This isn’t fear of you.
Let’s not get carried away.

This is fear of me…
because I’ve worked way too hard on my peace, my growth, my healing, my “let’s communicate like adults” era—
to let one poorly timed comment drag me back into my “say it how I feel and deal with the consequences later” phase.

Growth isn’t always soft, glowing, and Instagrammable.

Sometimes growth looks like:

• Not responding
• Walking away
• Choosing silence when you’ve got a whole TED Talk ready
• Smiling politely when your brain is like, “Oh we could ruin this moment… easily.”

That’s not weakness.
That’s self-control doing overtime.

Because the truth is—
some situations don’t deserve your energy…
but they will get it if you’re not careful.

And jail orange?
It’s not your color. Let’s be honest.

So yes, I avoid certain people, certain conversations, certain vibes.

Not because I can’t handle them—
but because I absolutely can…
and I’d rather not.

Call it avoidance if you want.
I call it protecting my peace and my probation status. 😌✨