Relationships with narcissists are some of the most mentally and emotionally exhausting experiences a person can go through

 

Relationships with narcissists are some of the most mentally and emotionally exhausting experiences a person can go through. 

This is the one relationship where your love, kindness, and loyalty don’t bring closeness, but instead invite betrayal, anger, and devaluation. 

The harder you love them, the more they seem to want to break you.

At first, a narcissist will mirror everything you want to see. They will make you feel special, adored, and irreplaceable. They will listen intently, act supportive, and say all the right things to gain your trust. 

It feels like the connection you’ve always wanted—until it isn’t.

Over time, things shift. The same person who once admired you now seems irritated by your presence. 

The one who used to appreciate your kindness now belittles you for it. 

The same loyalty they once praised suddenly feels like a weakness they exploit. 

You start to feel like you can’t do anything right, no matter how hard you try.

Narcissists thrive on control. They manipulate through guilt, gaslighting, and emotional highs and lows. One day they make you feel like you’re everything to them, and the next, they withdraw affection, lash out, or treat you like you don’t matter. 

It keeps you stuck in a cycle—always trying to get back to the good moments, always blaming yourself when things go wrong.

The truth is, a narcissist’s love is conditional, but their hatred is not. The better you are to them, the more they want to tear you down. They see your kindness as weakness, your love as something to exploit, and your loyalty as something they own. 

The more you give, the less they respect you.

Trying to love a narcissist doesn’t heal them—it drains you. You will bend over backward to prove your worth, but they will never be satisfied. 

They don’t want love; they want power. The moment they feel they have complete control, they lose interest or seek ways to break you further.

Walking away is the only way to win. Narcissists don’t change, and they don’t suddenly wake up one day and appreciate you. 

The love, kindness, and loyalty you so freely gave to them - give it back to yourself. That’s where true healing begins.