Loving someone who has experienced trauma can feel like a rollercoaster- You will not always understand their triggers and neither will they Loving A Trauma Survivor Reality Quote

 

Loving someone who has experienced trauma can feel like… a rollercoaster.

You will not always understand their triggers, and neither will they.

Some days, they will want nothing more than for you to reach inside them or smother them with your touch and cover them with love and affection.

Other days, the thought of being touched makes them recoil. It can change in the flip of the switch, and this is not about you.

You will feel confused, who would not?

Pulling you closer, and pushing you farther away simultaneously. Close but not too close. Just a tad farther back, stay over there, and yet, please do not go. Please do not ever leave. No matter how much I try to make you. It can be hearing them say that they cannot find their way back to themselves.

You will struggle and wonder why you cannot fix it, hoping and praying for the right thing to say, and maybe they will be okay. A hug a day keeps the sadness away...sometimes.

One minute, they are bright and shiny. The next, you watch the joy seep out from their eyes.

It takes patience. It takes setting aside your ego. It takes compassion, empathy, and the willingness to create a safe space for you both to grow; apart and together.

There will be times when they react, rather than respond. They are trying. They are really, really truly trying.

It takes understanding to accept and truly believe this is not your burden to bear; it should not be theirs either. You see less than a fraction of what it takes on a daily basis for them to get out of bed and paint on a pretty smile.

If you want part of them, you must experience all of them too.

And you do it because you love them.

Because you just love them.

No matter what.