I be thinking I changed, until I get mad. Whole time I'm still crazy😂🫣🤷♀️😉
Saturday, November 30, 2024
She does crave love and affection, but she is at the point in her life where she isn't going to let temporary people touch her mind, body or soul.Tired Wonan Quote
This is why she's single.
She is saving herself for someone who has genuine intentions with her from the very first conversation.
She does crave love and affection, but she is at the point in her life where she isn't going to let temporary people touch her mind, body or soul.
She is done having shallow conversations with people who didn't deserve her precious time in the first place.
Throughout the years, she has experienced trauma that has taken an unfortunate toll on her mental health, and she will never settle for someone who will make her question her own selfworth ever again.
She knows how valuable her life is, and she isn't afraid to continue on this journey alone because she is done with false fronts from people with hidden agendas.
The truth is ......
She's the true definition of an anomaly in this generation, and her elegant heart has more love to give than the number of synapses in the human brain, and let's not forget her soul....
Her soul reaches beyond the stars into galaxies that will be unknown for centuries to come.
~ Cody Bret
Nobody knows how much I suffered this year. They truly don’t. Suffering Person Quote
I didn’t write these words, but I can say it’s very true ….
 Nobody knows how much I suffered this year.
I almost gave up and almost lost myself because I was hurting a lot. Nobody really knows how many times I pulled myself together just to survive this year, I am so proud of myself for being here. I’ve learned that I am a strong person. I also learned to forgive myself for letting myself settle for less than what I truly deserved. This may be the most painful year for me, but at least I survived and learned a lot.
Teach these 40 phrases to your sons and daughters so they can be more resilient, successful, and confident in life Inspirational Quote
Teach these 40 phrases to your sons and daughters so they can be more resilient, successful, and confident in life.
1. Where there's a will, there's a way.
2. Good manners don't cost anything.
3. Always ask. They can only say no.
4. You're not marrying one; you're marrying the whole family.
5. Find the good in everybody.
6. Don't cry before you try.
7. There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers.
8. Pretty is as pretty does.
9. Treat others as you would like to be treated.
10. You can't control what others do, only your own reactions.
11. Don't buy what you can't afford.
12. Remember that things don’t make you happy, people do.
13. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
14. Two wrongs don't make a right.
15. Watch what you step in.
16. Cow turds are a cattlemen's dollar signs. It all depends on how you look at it.
17. Teamwork makes the dream work.
18. Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
19. What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.
20. Fair? The fair is two weeks in the fall.
21. One man's trash is another man's treasure.
22. The greatest day in your life is when you take total responsibility for your attitudes. That's the day you truly grow up.
23. True freedom is understanding that we have a choice in who and what we allow to have power over us.
24. You're only as old as you feel.
25. A rolling stone gathers no moss.
26. Early to bed and early to rise makes you healthy, wealthy, and wise.
27. Happiness is not by chance but by choice.
28. If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one.
29. A rising tide lifts all boats.
30. Don't judge a book by its cover.
31. You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
32. The early bird catches the worm.
33. Each day comes bearing its gifts. Untie the ribbon.
34. Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian.
35. Confession is good for the soul.
36. You can't make an omelet without breaking a few eggs.
37. The grass is greener where you water it.
38. The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.
39. There is no single recipe for success. But there is one essential ingredient: Passion.
40. Never lose hope. And never underestimate the power of prayer.
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5 Characteristics that every woman should have Strong Woman Quote
Be a woman who has:
• Money In Pocket
• Knowledge In Mind
• Kindness In Heart
• Confidence On Face
• Responsibility In Soul
Friday, November 29, 2024
10 ways to spot a toxic partner in a romantic relationship Toxic Partner Quote
10 WAYS ON HOW TO SPOT A TOXIC PARTNER in A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
There are a lot of phenomenal studies on the traits and characteristics of psychopaths. A quick Internet search will lead you to them. The red flags in this article are intended to supplement these resources.
So what’s different about this list? Well, for one, it’s specifically about relationships. But it’s also about you. Each point requires introspection and self-awareness. Because if you want to spot toxic people, you cannot focus entirely on their behavior—that’s only half the battle. You must also come to recognize the looming red flags in your own heart. Then you will be ready for anything.
1. Gaslighting and crazy-making.
They blatantly deny their own
manipulative behavior and ignore evidence when confronted with it.
They become dismissive and critical if you attempt to disprove their fabrications with facts. Instead of them actually addressing their inappropriate behavior, somehow it always becomes your fault for being “sensitive” and “crazy.” Toxic people condition you to believe that the problem isn’t the abuse itself, but instead your reactions to their abuse.
2. Cannot put themselves in your shoes, or anyone else’s, for that
matter.
You find yourself desperately trying to explain how they might feel if you were treating them this way, and they just stare at you blankly. You slowly learn not to communicate your feelings with them,
because you’re usually met with silence or annoyance.
3. The ultimate hypocrite. “Do as I say, not as I do.”
They have extremely high expectations for fidelity, respect, and adoration. After the idealization phase, they will give none of this back to you. They will cheat, lie, criticize, and manipulate. But you are expected to remain perfect, otherwise you will promptly be replaced and deemed unstable.
4. Pathological lying and excuses.
There is always an excuse for everything, even things that don’t require excusing. They make up lies faster than you can question them. They constantly blame others, it is never their fault. They spend more time rationalizing their behavior than improving it. Even when caught in a lie, they express no remorse or
embarrassment. Oftentimes, it almost seems as if they wanted you to catch them.
5. Focuses on your mistakes and ignores their own.
If they’re two hours late, don’t forget that you were once five minutes late to your first date.
If you point out their inappropriate behavior, they will always be quick to turn the conversation back on you. You might begin to adopt perfectionist qualities, very aware that any mistake can and will be used against you.
6. You find yourself explaining the basic elements of human respect to a full-grown man or woman.
Normal people understand fundamental
concepts like honesty and kindness. Psychopaths often appear to be childlike and innocent, but don’t let this mask fool you. No adult should
need to be told how he or she is making other people feel.
7. Selfishness and a crippling thirst for attention.
They drain the energy from you and consume your entire life. Their demand for adoration is
insatiable. You thought you were the only one who could make them happy, but now you feel that anyone with a beating pulse could fit the role. However, the truth is: no one can fill the void of a psychopath’s soul.
8. Accuses you of feeling emotions that they are intentionally
provoking.
They call you jealous after blatantly flirting with an ex, often done over social networking for the entire world to see. They call you needy after intentionally ignoring you for days on end. They use your manufactured reactions to garner sympathy from other targets,trying to prove how “hysterical” you’ve become. You probably once considered yourself to be an exceptionally easygoing person, but an encounter with a psychopath will (temporarily) turn that notion upside down.
9. You find yourself playing detective.
It’s never happened in any other
relationship, but suddenly you’re investigating the person you once trusted unconditionally. If they’re active on Facebook, you start scrolling back years on their posts and albums. Same with their ex. You’re seeking answers to a feeling you can’t quite explain.
10. You are the only one who sees their true color.
No matter what they do, they always seem to have a fan club cheering for them. Psychopaths are able to maintain superficial friendships far longer than relationships.
#toxicrelationships
No matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back Inner Strength Quote
"In the midst of hate I found there was, within me, an invincible love.
In the midst of tears I found there was, within me, an invincible smile.
In the midst of chaos I found there was, within me, an invincible calm.
I realized, through it all, that…
In the midst of winter I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.
And that makes me happy.
For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back."
✍️ Albert Camus
Letting someone create a false narrative about you while they continue to create a false narrative about who they truly are is a small price to pay for taking the garbage out Removing Toxic People Quote
If you've ended a relationship with a narcissist, someone who displays narcissistic traits, or someone who's very obviously toxic, this is going to happen!
I'll say it again, it's definitely going to happen!
And the reason it's going to happen is because deep inside they know what they've done, but they don't want anyone else to know what they've done, so they'll create a false narrative to deflect everything back onto you so that they can maintain their image, and they don't have to be accountable.
And when you stop and think about that for a moment, you realise just how much of an ugly person they really must be, because this is their true character.
And I hope because of this you begin to realize that a person like this doesn't deserve your thoughts, your mental energy, or the degradation of your peace.
Let them say whatever they want, because nothing is worth the loss of your new found peace after being at the mercy of their destruction.
Focus on the path ahead of you, because what they do really is a small price to pay for the amazing, beautiful life that you can now have...
~ Mark Smith
Being a loner is a trauma response -you are so used to people you love not showing up for you or walking away that you learn that the only thing that you can depend on is truly yourself so you naturally just feel safe when you’re alone Trauma Response Quote
Many of us have experienced the pain of abandonment or disappointment from those we trusted most. Over time, this can lead to a protective instinct to withdraw and rely solely on ourselves. While solitude can provide a sense of safety, it can also create barriers that make it difficult to connect with others.
Choosing to be alone often feels like the safer option, especially when past experiences have taught us that vulnerability can lead to hurt. However, it’s important to recognise that this coping mechanism, while understandable, doesn’t have to define our lives. Healing from trauma involves learning to navigate relationships in a way that honours our needs while also allowing for connection and support.
It’s okay to feel safe in solitude, but remember that you don’t have to face everything alone. Gradually opening up to trusted individuals can help rebuild your sense of safety in relationships. Surround yourself with people who understand your journey and respect your boundaries.
Let’s embrace the journey of healing together. Acknowledge the comfort of being alone while also allowing space for connection and love. You are worthy of relationships that uplift and support you—take your time, and know that it’s okay to seek companionship when you’re ready.
#HealingJourney #NarcissisticAbuseSurvivor #Connection #EmbraceYourJourney
Red Velvet Checkerboard Cake Recipe Idea
Red Velvet Checkerboard Cake
A show-stopping dessert, the Red Velvet Checkerboard Cake is a vibrant, visually striking cake that combines the classic flavor of red velvet with a fun checkerboard pattern. This cake is perfect for any celebration or special occasion. It’s a bit more involved than a traditional cake, but the results are absolutely worth it!
Ingredients:
For the Red Velvet Cake:
2 1/2 cups (315g) all-purpose flour
1 1/2 cups (300g) granulated sugar
1 tsp baking soda
1 tsp cocoa powder
1 tsp salt
1 cup (240ml) buttermilk, room temperature
1/2 cup (120g) unsalted butter, softened
2 large eggs, room temperature
1 tbsp red food coloring
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 tsp white vinegar
For the Vanilla Cake:
2 1/2 cups (315g) all-purpose flour
1 1/2 cups (300g) granulated sugar
1 tsp baking powder
1 tsp salt
1 cup (240ml) whole milk, room temperature
1/2 cup (120g) unsalted butter, softened
2 large eggs, room temperature
1 tsp vanilla extract
For the Cream Cheese Frosting:
8 oz (225g) cream cheese, softened
I started to call that girl back -the one who actually loved to live Self Help Quote
I started calling that girl back.
The girl who loved living,
the girl who danced instead of walking.
The girl who had sunflowers for eyes
and fireworks in her soul.
I started playing music again,
hoping she would come out.
I started looking for beautiful moments
to experience,
so she would feel safe enough
to show herself,
because I knew she was in there.
And she needed my kindness
and my effort to come to the
surface again
- S.C. Lourie
She's born in chaos, where all seems lost, and yet, part of us chooses to keep going, to rise, to find meaning even in the pain. Resilience is not an innate gift: it is an art that life shapes in us, slowly, with scars and revelations Strong Woman Quote
"You know, resilience isn't taught as a lesson or a technique. She is the result of an inward journey between hardships overcome, unsuspecting strengths discovered within oneself, and that spark of life that refuses to quit.
She's born in chaos, where all seems lost, and yet, part of us chooses to keep going, to rise, to find meaning even in the pain. Resilience is not an innate gift: it is an art that life shapes in us, slowly, with scars and revelations.
It is in the weight of failures that we find the courage to begin again, in the losses that we discover what's essential, and in the unexpected that we reinvent our dreams. Resilience is that inner whisper that says, “You can still go, differently, but always stronger. ”
Written by Charlotte Cellier
Originally posted by Daniella
Art by May Mind
Garlic Butter Cheese Bomb Recipe Idea
Get ready to indulge in these delicious Garlic Butter Cheese Bombs! Perfect for a quick snack or a party appetizer, they’re loaded with gooey mozzarella cheese and brushed with a flavorful garlic butter mixture!
Ingredients:
1 (16oz) container of refrigerated biscuit dough (8 biscuits)
4 ounces mozzarella cheese (soft, shredded or diced string cheese)
4 tbsp melted butter (half a stick)
1 tsp garlic powder
1 tsp Italian seasoning
Pinch of salt
Directions:
Preheat Oven:
Preheat your oven to 375°F (190°C). Line a baking sheet with parchment paper or lightly grease it.
Prepare the Biscuits:
Open the container of refrigerated biscuit dough and separate the biscuits. Flatten each biscuit into a 3-inch circle.
Add the Cheese:
Place a piece of mozzarella cheese in the center of each biscuit dough circle. Fold the edges of the dough up and around the cheese, pinching to seal and form a ball.
Season and Bake:
Place the cheese-filled biscuit bombs seam-side down on the prepared baking sheet. In a small bowl, combine the melted butter, garlic powder, Italian seasoning, and a pinch of salt. Brush the tops of the biscuit bombs with the seasoned butter mixture.
Bake:
Bake in the preheated oven for 12-15 minutes, or until the biscuit bombs are golden brown and the cheese is melted and gooey.
Serve:
Serve the garlic butter cheese bombs warm. Enjoy them on their own or with a dipping sauce of your choice!
Details:
Prep Time: 10 minutes
Cooking Time: 15 minutes
Total Time: 25 minutes
Calories: 180 kcal per bomb
Servings: 8 biscuit bombs
Wounded adult children are not "blaming" our parents for our problems- We deserve to be able to grieve our unmet needs out loud and validate our childhood trauma by naming it Healing Quote
Acknowledging our pain is not an act of blame; rather, it is a crucial step in the healing process. By shining a light on our past, we empower ourselves to confront the wounds that have shaped our lives and inform our present.
Bringing awareness to our experiences allows us to see how they have influenced our behaviors, relationships, and emotional well-being. Many of us grew up in environments where our feelings were dismissed or minimized, leading to internalized beliefs that we are unworthy or undeserving of love. By acknowledging these truths, we can begin to dismantle those harmful narratives.
Naming our trauma is a powerful act of reclamation. It transforms vague feelings of discomfort into identifiable experiences that we can process. When we articulate what we’ve been through—whether it’s emotional neglect, manipulation, or outright abuse—we take the first step toward healing. This act validates our experiences and reinforces the notion that we have the right to feel pain and seek healing.
Grieving our unmet needs is an essential part of this journey. Many of us carry deep-seated sorrow for the love, support, and validation we didn’t receive as children. It’s important to allow ourselves to express this grief openly, whether through journaling, therapy, or conversations with trusted friends. By giving voice to our pain, we honor the child within us who longed for connection and understanding.
Know that it’s okay to express your pain and validate your experiences. You deserve to grieve openly and without shame. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who understand the importance of this journey and who will listen without judgment. Whether it’s through therapy groups, online communities, or trusted friends, finding a safe space can make all the difference.
Let’s commit to acknowledging our truths—not as a means of blaming but as a pathway to healing. By validating our childhood trauma, we can begin to break free from its hold on us and create healthier futures. Remember that your feelings are valid, and you have every right to voice them! Each step you take toward understanding your past is a step toward reclaiming your present and future. Embrace this journey with courage and compassion; you are worthy of healing and happiness!
Manipulation is when they blame you for your reaction to their disrespect.. read that again, and let it sink in Reality of Disrespect Quote
This is a classic tactic used by manipulators, and it's designed to make you feel guilty, or ashamed, or responsible for someone else's behavior, and it's often used to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions, and to maintain power and control over others.
Here's the thing: you are not responsible for someone else's disrespect, and you are not responsible for their behavior, and you are not responsible for their actions, and you are not responsible for their words, and you are not responsible for their tone, and you are not responsible for their attitude.
You are only responsible for your own reactions, and your own responses, and your own boundaries, and your own needs, and your own feelings, and your own emotions, and your own well-being.
Don't let anyone manipulate you into thinking that your reaction to their disrespect is the problem, because it's not, the problem is their disrespect, and their refusal to take responsibility for their actions, and their attempt to shift the blame onto you, and control the narrative, and maintain power and control over you.
Remember, you have the right to react to disrespect, and you have the right to stand up for yourself, and you have the right to demand respect, and you have the right to walk away from anyone who disrespects you, and tries to manipulate you into thinking that it's your fault.
My cycle with you has ended, I have nothing else to offer you, except more complaints and reproaches product of emotional exhaustion in which I find myself Ending of a Relationship Quote
My cycle with you has ended, I have nothing else to offer you, except more complaints and reproaches product of emotional exhaustion in which I find myself.
I don't want to continue in a relationship that steals my peace and causes me more anguish than happiness, I realized I had an idea of our relationship that didn't fit reality, I idealized you, I dreamed you, I granted you attributes that you finally didn't have.
I gave this relationship a lot of chances because I held on to my good memories and my idea of a future with you.
I let you go and close this chapter.
I understand that love is not demanded and should not be forced, I leave this relationship to focus on the most important relationship in the world:
The relationship with myself
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